Have you ever been told, “Everything happens for a reason?”
I have, and it hurts like hell. I think maybe they say it because they don’t know what else to say? There really isn’t anything anyone CAN say to make it better, don’t you feel? Maybe those people don’t feel comfortable staying silent.
I hate it when people tell me “Everything happens for a reason”, especially in the face of precarious health. It’s code for “I don’t want to have to think about what it takes to deal with life without this trite phrase”. Both myself and my husband have chronic pain and chronic illness which can’t be magically or otherwise wished away.
To quote the author, “These platitudes are bullshit.”